Prayers for Evangelical Believers:
A Prayer Written for Those Recovering from an Affair
by Ed Vasicek
Note: This prayer is written in the first person to make it more usable. Although I try to put myself in the place of those going through such things, this is not how I pray for those who are struggling with an affair. This prayer was born out of counseling experience, not personal experience. Ed
Recovering from an affair. Easy words to say. Yet you know my heart is breaking. Lord, I confess to you that what I did was wrong. I sought love from another contrary to the teaching of your Word. Although it felt right, it was an unholy act.
It started out with friendship. I stopped feeling lonely. I never thought it would become so deep, nor that I would become so emotionally dependent upon someone other than my God and my spouse. But it happened.
I want to put it behind me, but it is hard. I have given part of my soul to another, and another has done the same to me. And now that I want to get right with you, I have your blessing, but I also have an ache in my soul. I canít have my lover and my spouse, too. And I canít have your blessing when I rebel against one of the clearest and boldest teachings of your Word. So I choose You instead. I choose to honor the marital vows I have compromised. I have chosen to break things off, but part of me now feels broken.
Lord, they say that time heals. They say Iíll get over it as others have. Part of me believes that is true, but part of me is not convinced. Lord, help me believe that You will honor me and help me to be whole again. I choose to trust You, even in my pain.
Others cannot understand right now. But You do. So I bring my grief and loss to You time and time again, and I reaffirm my commitment to faithfulness. Faithfulness to you, and faithfulness to my spouse. I cannot change the past, but I choose to walk hand in hand with You in the future.
Yes, I have brought this suffering upon myself and hurt another badly in the process. Yes, my sin has caught up to me. But no, You will not abandon nor forsake me, O God my Savior! You offer me a clean slate and a new beginning. Help me to hold your hand when my eyes are blinded by tears. Lead me, slowly but surely, into a better lifestyle, a deeper love for the one I married, and a life richer than I have ever known. Help me to pursue You as I never have before.
In Jesusí Name, Amen
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