Prayers for Evangelical Believers:
A Prayer for Those Who Have Lost A Child
by Ed Vasicek
Lord, You are the God Who sees,
And it is my prayer that You would see my misery and grief and comfort me. O God, I am so empty, I feel so helpless, so trapped in a grief that is bigger than I. Lord, I expect certain tragedies in life, but no one expects to lose a child. A parent, yes. A sibling, possibly. A spouse, perhaps. But not a child, Lord. This is a complete nightmare.
Lord, I have no choice but to either go through this horrible trauma with You or without You. I cannot reverse it, no matter how I try to bargain with You. I can question Your goodness or doubt Your wisdom, I could deny You and try to hate You, but, Lord, that would not bring back my child. I would be cutting myself off from my best source of help and comfort. No, Iíve never needed You as much as I need you right now.
Lord, there is a big hole inside of me. Sometimes the hole seems bigger than what is left of me. Others try to comfort me, and they mean well. Their love does sometimes help, at least for a little while. But then the reality of it all hits me again: my child is gone, and I will not see that special person until I reach heaven. And it seems such a long time!
Father, I had dreams about my childís future. I know that nothing is guaranteed in life, but I assumed that such horrific losses occurred in the lives of others; I never dreamt that death would strike down my own child!
O, Father, I do not seem able to bear it. But I thank You that You love me, and I know this not because of how life is, but because of Calvary. You demonstrated Your love by sending Jesus to die on the cross to bear my sins. I know You love because of Jesus, despite the apparently contradictory message of my tragic loss. Lord, I long to escape this world which is under Your curse! Yet, in the meantime, with Your help, I will trust You even though I do not understand. It is not even that I do not fully understand; I do not understand AT ALL.
Lord, please work within me. Help me to first get through these days, weeks, and months. Then help me to be able to cope and move on. I know You will never take all the pain away. I donít want You to take all the pain away, because I loved my child too much to want to forget my loss. If I ceased to hurt, that would mean I have forgotten; I would die first. But help me limp forward with Your hand in mine and to find a new purpose in life and to adjust to living with the pain of heartache.
Lord, although others may attempt to comfort me with the promise of eternal lifeóas though it were some sort of drug to distract me from my lossóI know Your promise is true. If it were not true, life would be only vanity. But thank You that eternal life is the real destiny of Your children. So I do find a little comfort here. Thank You that the reunion ahead is real, not just wishful thinking.
So please help me, Lord, for I pray to You, God of all mercies, in Jesusí Name, Amen.
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